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mates how much he liked me and didn't want to make a fool of him self and in
the end he took my number.
He called the next day, we had a nice chat, he said he enjoyed the night before
and I agreed, the conversation was all positive but he didn't actually ask me out.
Is he interested? he seemed to be the other night and when we spoke on the
phone.
other problem is I have been told he is a player and I'm not sure if I want to get
hurt at the moment, I'm not interested in anything serious, but I do like him and
know we would have a good time together.
Do you think I should ask him out or would this be a bad idea?
Strategy
Is he a player? There can be lots of gossips going on about
someone. Sometimes these gossips are true. Sometimes, they are
not. The best is to find out for yourself.
He already called you, right? The best is to wait for a few days (1
week is ideal) and if he does not contact you, call him. Have a
friendly chat. Get to know each other. Keep it light and friendly.
At the end of the call, say something like: "hey, I will be going to
this cafe, with some friends on Saturday. What you doing on
Saturday? We could meet there if you want..."
Guys can feel quite uncomfortable when you ask them for a date
directly. It can already feel like a semi- commitment which can lead
to intimacy. The idea is to simply propose an "open" meeting in a
public place. This takes away the "formality" of a date and keeps
things on a friendly and flirty ground.
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It's usually a great alternative.
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Part 5 Cyber flirting
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Success with online flirting
Online dating is a training ground.
It gives you the occasion to train your flirting skills.
Online dating is very safe.
It is much safer than walking into a pub and sitting at a bar, right?
This is a gold mine!
It is one of the incredible benefits of the internet.
It is not a coincidence that there are thousands of dating sites all
over the net. They respond to a need.
By now, I know dozens of couple who met online.
The goal is to empower your experience and make sure you don't
invest too much too soon.
You want to network when you are online.
You network with online dating in the same way as you would
network with business.
You stay in touch, follow up on your contacts, get the best of a
connection, have fun, find out how you can make someone's day,
let go when you have to, etc.
It is an art to play that game.
It takes a few weeks of practice and experimenting get really
familiar with it.
The benefits are immense:
You create a social circle
You get validation from men
You train your flirting skills
You develop a "dating body" which is your profile, what
you want others to know, etc.
You have fun
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You learn to take initiatives
You create romance
You establish fresh connections
etc.
I mean, this is already a long list!
There is no other place in your life where you can effectively train
these skills.
The dating equation has shifted over the last few years because of
internet dating.
The net gives you the opportunity to have much greater control
over your dating life.
The trick however is to network.
The moment you become exclusive with someone, you loose all the
power of your online dating.
What does it mean to be exclusive?
You send messages only to one man.
You wait for his answers.
You worry when he does not reply,
You know nothing about his real life,
You have no clue whether what he says is really true
Etc.
As you can see, being exclusive online makes you dependent and
very vulnerable.
In the early stages, it is a mistake you don't want to commit.
You want to stay free and open.
Flirting with a man online does not mean that you have a
relationship with him.
It is okay to only flirt.
The moment you are in a committed relationship, this dynamic
might change.
You can decide for the right strategy at that stage.
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However, right now, you are free!
Use and express that freedom.
This is how you strengthen your emotional freedom: by expressing
it!
Online dating gives you the perfect opportunity to practice this.
If you want to keep and empower your freedom, it is very simple:
all you have to do is use it!
Freedom is a right!
It is a power in you!
Use it!
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Cyber dating Why it works
Cyber dating is your training ground.
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