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process.
Unfortunately,
somewhere
along
your
path
of
development, you picked up the idea that there is
something wrong with failing. You became very much
concerned about what others would think when failure
occurred. Even if you didn’t take chances with your
life, you felt you must always look good in the eyes
of your family, friends and society.
You
may
have
decided
that
the
best
way
to
avoid
failure was to tackle only those things for which
success was assured in advance. Since there is very
little in life that we can be one hundred percent
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sure
of,
your
activities
would
necessarily
be
limited. This attitude probably had its genesis in
your teens when you where striving for the acceptance
of your peer group. Most teens would rather die than
appear stupid, ridiculous or fail in front of their
peer group.
During our teens we spent a lot of time comparing
ourselves to others. As we looked around us it seemed
that our peers always had assets we felt we didn’t
have. Therefore, in order not to expose ourselves to
challenge, and the possibility of failure, we began
to withdraw. Failure was something that was avoided
at all costs; approval was our strongest motivation.
As
this
habit
pattern
became
impressed
into
our
subconscious,
our
limited
thinking
made
us
a
prisoner. In order to function, we created a comfort
zone
whereby
we
avoided
unpleasant
situations
and
established a routine that we felt comfortable with.
Unfortunately, our comfort zone shuts off all the
unlimited possibilities, which exist outside it.
If
we
are
to
break
out
of
the
comfort
zone
we
created, we must make friends with failure. When we
decide to give up our need for approval, it won’t
matter how many mistakes we make as long as we reach
our
ultimate
goal.
Thomas
Edison
conducted
10,000
experiments
before
inventing
the
light
bulb.
Undeterred,
he
didn’t
classify
any
of
these
experiments as failures. Instead, he said, he had
successfully
identified
9,999
ways
his
invention
wouldn’t work!
What we are talking about here is persistence. This
is the dynamic quality that separates the achievers
from the non-achievers and often, surprisingly, takes
the place of intelligence, knowledge, education and
even experience.
Those who are persistent refuse to
allow any person, circumstance or condition to get in
their way. An unknown writer put it this way –
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Aristotle
find.”
said,
“What
you
expect,
that
you
shall
Nothing
in
the
world
can
take
the
place
of
persistence.
Talent
will
not.
Nothing
is
more
common
than
unsuccessful people with talent.
Genius will not.
Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will
not.
The
world
is
full
of
educated
derelicts.
Persistence and determination alone are supreme.
THE LAW OF EXPECTANCY
Time and time again, psychological studies have shown
that the basic reason for a person’s success is that
he expected to succeed. Athletes who achieve success
expect to win. Mohammed Ali was one of the greatest
prizefighters of all time. In his usual out-going
way, he affirmed victory by stating, “When I win this
fight….” not “If I win this fight.” Now, that’s total
self-confidence!
Expectations control your life, so it is imperative
that you control your expectations. If you expect the
best, you will attract the best. But if you expect
the worst to happen, be assured that it will. By
permitting
your
life
to
be
dominated
by
negative
thought patterns, you form the habit of expecting
negative
results.
Studies
show
that
over
ninety
percent of the population has negative expectations.
You may find this hard to accept, but the reason you
grow old is because you expect to. You have been
programmed to begin
getting
old when you
reach a
certain
age.
At
that
point
in
time,
you
subconsciously take on the personality, dress style
and symptoms of old age. Elephants have an instinct
that enables them to predict death. When they feel
their time has come, they embark on a journey to the
‘elephants’ graveyard. The majority of people I know
do about the same thing!
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Total
self-confidence
is
built
through
positive
expectations. You can build positive expectations by
knowing that you have the power within to overcome
any obstacle that lies ahead. So many people have a
magnetic attraction to the past. They save momentos,
clippings, old letters and trivia. While there is
nothing “wrong with this, if you want to succeed your
mind must focus on where you are going, not to where
you have been. Instead of saving momentos, clippings,
old letters and trivia from the past, it would be
more productive to make a scrapbook with pictures of
where you want to go and what you want to be in the
future.
Look forward to the future with expectations, and
then
act
enthusiastic.
Enthusiasm
is
a
powerful
motivating force and
one of the great secrets
of
success. Derived from two Greek words, ‘en’ meaning
‘in’ and ‘theos’ meaning ‘God,’ enthusiasm means God
in You. And it is this God Power within you that will
enable you to accomplish anything you desire if you
release it through dynamic thinking.
The margin of difference in actual skill, ability and
intelligence between those who achieve and those who
fail is really quite small. If two people are evenly
matched, the one who is enthusiastic will find the
scales tipping in his favor. Even an enthusiastic
person with second-rate ability will often succeed
where
a
person
of
first-rate
ability,
lacking
enthusiasm, will fail.
When Mark Twain was asked the secret of his success,
he replied, “I was born excited.” Thomas Edison said,
“When a man dies, if he can pass enthusiasm along to
his
children,
he
has
left
them
as
estate
of
incalculable
value.”
And
Emerson,
in
his
essays,
observed, “Every great and commanding moment in the
annals of
the world is the
triumph
of somebody’s
enthusiasm.” The respective life experiences of these
men bear out their shared philosophy.
When you expect something positive, through the Law
of Attraction, just like a magnet, you will attract
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whatever you expect. Know that your expectations of
today will be your life of tomorrow.
THE SECRECY PRINCIPLE
None of your time should be spent in telling others
what you are going to accomplish. To do so is another
form of approval seeking. By disclosing your goals
you
will
dissipate
valuable
energy
needed
to
accomplish them, as well as set up opposition from
those who wish to control you.
Most people will try to talk you out of your goals.
They dislike seeing anyone having more or do better
than they, and will resort to almost any extreme to
put
down
someone
who
tries
to
break
away
from
mediocrity. Don’t give them a chance! Many would-be
achievers have lost out before they even got started
by letting others, particularly family members, talk
them out of what they really wanted to do. Unless you
are sharing a goal with someone else, it is best to
keep it to yourself.
Secret #10
YOU DESERVE A BREAK TODAY
The best break you can give yourself is one devoted
to meditation with its unique combination of peace
and power. Persons concerned with the betterment of
humankind have come to the conclusion, at different
times and in different places, that, if we are to
achieve our maximum mental, physical and spiritual
potential, a system of complete rest, relaxation and
inner communication is essential. Without this, we
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to
operate
at
a fraction
of
our
can
only
expect
capabilities.
Different techniques have been developed to help us
reach our potential. The most common is mediation.
Meditation is not the invention of any one group or
individual. It does not necessarily have anything to
do
with
any
religious
group
or
denomination.
No
initiation is required, no ceremony is necessary and,
contrary to what you may have been led to believe no
one
has
to
teach
you
how
to
meditate.
While
instruction may be helpful, it is not essential.
All the mystery and hocus-pocus surrounding mediation
has kept many people from exploring the possibility
of integrating it into their lives. The simple fact
is that the art of meditation can be learned with
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